Navigating the Balance Between Self-Improvement and Fixation
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Understanding the Healing Journey
Have you found yourself on a path of healing or spiritual awakening for some time now? Or perhaps your self-improvement journey is relatively new, yet something feels amiss. You might be experiencing exhaustion or a sense of emptiness, leaving you to ponder the cause.
Continue reading to discover how to maintain your power while engaging in "inner work." This article aims to clarify the delicate distinction between self-improvement and an incessant need to fix yourself. The cycle of healing and "ascending" can become a trap, a reality I have witnessed both in my life and in the experiences of clients and colleagues over the years.
How to Stay Grounded During Self-Improvement
While there are ways to engage in self-work without falling into a trap, it can be challenging and differs from person to person. Self-awareness is crucial; being able to observe and acknowledge your feelings is essential. At times, you may also need someone else’s support to gain an objective or compassionate viewpoint.
Here are five key insights to keep in mind throughout your self-improvement, healing, or spiritual growth journey:
You Are Not Broken
This is the essential truth. Nothing you've experienced or done renders you flawed, unworthy, or irreparable. Unfortunately, trauma and stress can lead us to adopt these false beliefs, which then perpetuate the cycle of self-improvement, where we continually strive to "fix" ourselves.
In the alternative healing community, terms like "lightworkers" and "starseeds" often promise ascension and transitions to a higher state of consciousness. The validity of these concepts remains unproven, and the timelines for such experiences are often revised. It’s best to detach from these notions for now.
The law of attraction can also trigger feelings of inadequacy, suggesting that if you cannot manifest your desires, it's your fault due to a low vibration. Be cautious not to get sucked into this mindset.
Retain Your Personal Power
This lesson is significant for everyone, particularly for empaths and truth seekers. Believing that others hold the keys to your answers can lead to complications. The reality is that many coaches and practitioners are just as uncertain as you may feel. They may possess an inflated sense of confidence that misleads others.
Additionally, not all information from psychics or channelers is accurate. While some insights may resonate, it’s crucial to remain discerning, as the spirit realm can introduce unknown entities.
Beware of Endless Self-Work
Engaging in self-improvement can become an addiction. Even seemingly healthy habits can become compulsive. Many individuals may find themselves trapped in cycles of dieting, fitness, or other self-improvement activities.
It's vital to recognize that while some issues deserve attention, the line between seeking necessary support and getting caught in a continuous loop of fixing can blur. Reflect on your own experiences in this regard.
Avoid Manipulative Practices
There is a troubling trend of hypocrisy and manipulation within the coaching and healing community. Many practitioners operate out of alignment with their teachings, employing dubious sales tactics to pressure clients into commitments.
Establishing clear boundaries and maintaining a healthy skepticism is crucial in the self-improvement arena. Vulnerability in those seeking help makes them susceptible to exploitation, which can lead to further harm.
Reach Out for Support
Sometimes, hitting rock bottom can lead to significant breakthroughs. As humans, we often resist change until a traumatic event compels us to surrender.
Many people share that they didn’t seek help until circumstances became dire. This plea for assistance can take the form of reaching out to someone or even a spiritual call for guidance through prayer.
I have my own recent experiences related to this, which I will share in due time. However, I can affirm that seeking help is powerful, and there is no shame in doing so.
Recognizing the Absence of a Need to Fix
Engaging in self-improvement can be incredibly beneficial, but it’s crucial to distinguish between healthy growth and an obsession with fixing perceived flaws. Constantly focusing on what is lacking does not lead to true self-improvement; instead, it emphasizes a belief in brokenness.
This mindset can create a self-fulfilling prophecy of inadequacy, often stemming from earlier trauma. At the core, despite past experiences, you do not need to "fix" anything about yourself. Understanding this deeply is the key to breaking the cycle.
If you're seeking guidance in navigating the fine line between self-improvement and the urge to fix, please reach out to me at [email protected]. Sending you a big hug!
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