Chapter 1: Recognizing Your Worth

Do you find yourself speaking negatively about your achievements in front of others? I certainly did in the past. Before embarking on my journey of self-love and personal development, I often minimized my worth when discussing myself and my accomplishments.

It wasn't until my compassionate partner pointed this out that I became aware of this pattern. His observation that I often spoke of myself as if I were insignificant was a revelation for me. This realization highlighted how I had consistently dimmed my light in social settings.

Why did I do this? My desire to be liked and accepted by others led me to believe I wasn't enough. Consequently, I felt compelled to please those around me.

After experiencing a spiritual awakening in 2020, I gained insights into many past events that had shaped me into an apologetic and insecure individual. I recognized how my upbringing influenced this behavior, recalling memories where I felt undervalued and voiceless. The pressure to excel without receiving acknowledgment instilled a fear of making mistakes in me. Additionally, I was led to believe that discussing my achievements was akin to boasting, so I often refrained from sharing my experiences.

I spent a significant amount of time placing blame on my parents for raising me to be a "good girl," which caused me considerable difficulties in adulthood. My tendency to please others and the pressure to prove my worth often left me vulnerable to manipulation, especially in the workplace.

I frequently overextended myself, suppressed my emotions and needs, and avoided stepping outside my comfort zone due to the fear of judgment. This mindset adversely affected various aspects of my life, including my relationships.

In 2020, I began studying life coaching, delving into human psychology, and exploring spirituality and the connection between mind, body, and spirit. This knowledge empowered me to recognize the latent strength within me that I had previously underestimated.

I learned about the subconscious mind, the ego, and our inner critic, and how these elements govern our daily lives with limiting beliefs instilled by our upbringing and societal expectations. The most crucial insight was that transformation is within our reach.

The truth is, changing your life requires a commitment to breaking free from limitations and embracing your authentic self. My determination to reshape my identity outweighed the deeply ingrained beliefs of my subconscious.

I took control, acknowledging my behaviors and reprogramming the limiting narratives about myself. As a result, positive changes began to manifest, and my personality started to blossom.

Yes, society often raises women to be "good girls" who prioritize others over themselves. However, the reality is that it’s your responsibility to challenge these norms and reclaim your life.

I understand that this journey isn't easy. It demands bravery to diverge from the norm, forge your own path, and embrace your individuality. You must also be prepared for potential rejection and ridicule as you strive for authenticity. Here’s a vital lesson I learned: you cannot please everyone.

Yearning for universal acceptance stifles your growth. It's simply impossible to be all things to all people. The sooner you accept this, the more liberated you will feel.

You were not brought into this world to conform; you were meant to be yourself. But to do so, you must first connect with your true self.

How do you accomplish this?

By venturing into the world, stepping outside your comfort zone, and living life to the fullest. Embrace diverse experiences, listen to your heart, and trust your instincts. Most importantly, allow yourself to make mistakes.

Our society pressures us to be flawless, to have all the answers, and to remain silent and compliant. But this is misguided; it aims to keep you playing small.

If you follow the rules, you risk missing out on happiness and fulfillment. The only way forward is to be courageous, step out of your comfort zone, and pursue what you truly desire.

As you embark on this path of authenticity, don’t shy away from making mistakes. Embracing the messiness of life will not only make you stronger and more resilient but will also help you discover your true self on a deeper level. This is the essence of personal growth and development in every aspect of your life.

To grow means to peel away the layers, the masks, and the conditioning imposed on you since childhood. It means striving to become the most genuine version of yourself.

To grow means to continue learning and uncovering your needs and desires. It means unapologetically pursuing what you want and living your truth without fear of judgment.

To grow means to embrace and appreciate yourself through every phase of your life.

Once you open yourself to growth and confront the inevitable ups and downs of life, never underestimate the significance of your experiences. Your life is unique and invaluable, shaping you into the person you are today.

Choose to view yourself as essential in this world because you truly are. Speak about yourself with love and respect, always.

This is how you can stop belittling yourself and take command of your life.

In the video, "STOP making yourself small and be unapologetically yourself | LwL PODCAST," we delve into the importance of embracing your true self and shedding the need for external validation. By recognizing your worth, you can step into your power and lead a more fulfilling life.

Chapter 2: Taking Charge of Your Destiny

In "Take Charge Of Your Life | Be the Driver of Your Own Bus - INVEST IN YOURSELF," we explore how to take control of your life journey. This video emphasizes the significance of being proactive in your personal growth and making choices that align with your true self.

Hi, I'm Malgorzata, but you can call me Gosia. As a Life Coach, Mentor, and Writer, I share insights on self-love, well-being, personal growth, conscious living, and spirituality. My mission is to inspire others to lead authentic, empowered, and fulfilling lives on their terms. If you're interested in coaching, please visit my website for details about my services, fees, and to book a FREE Discovery Session. To learn more about me, check out my Linktree.

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